Why did I (we) do it??? Pt 1

This will be the first of 2 blogs...if you couldn't tell from the [Pt 1] in the title.

Okay, so I've never seen the 'Toya: a Family affair' show before today but somehow I have found myself watching a marathon! As I'm watching, one of her brothers [Casey] has an argument with the mother of his child [Gay Gay]. Gay Gay is a college student who works full time, and has found herself pregnant by Casey, currently unemployed and un-enrolled in school. My aunt - who is to blame for me watching this marathon - poses the question: "Why do these girls do that? Good girls go out here and get involved with these guys who have nothing going for themselves!"   I pause. given my recent situation in which I did EXACTLY that, I really had to evaluate my motivation behind it. Why did I decide that for my first relationship, I would decide to be with a man boy with no job, no potential, not in school, nothing in common with me???? 

I had to think for a second, then I realized: who would I date in school? What guy at my school would want to be in a relationship while in college? And if they did want to be in a relationship, chances are they are already in one! Secondly, Black guys who reach status seem to completely lose interest in Black women. As soon as they become engineering majors, varsity basketball\football\soccer (whatever) players, or any equivalent, they feel that being with girls of other races is the thing to do - be it as a symbol of status, exploring something new, or just plain preference. Honestly it's hard to find a black guy in school that will be in a relationship with a black girl, but it's damn near impossible to get a guy of another race to date you!!!! I'm gonna blog on this later, but in short - stereotypes and interracial porn have ruined the black woman's chances of being approached by a guy of another race in an academic setting such as college. 

Us girls go through the college phase of just wanting to party, have fun, and be spoiled by guys...but we outgrow that stage before guys do, thus we sit around at our Aunt's houses watching marathons of shows we've never seen before! 

Tired of being squeezed out of the dating pool...somebody throw me a life vest!!!!